So, this has been a tough week around here. We started back to school, and everything was going fairly well. Monday. By Tuesday I was already ready for it to be Friday, which is never a good sign!
Do you ever have those moments as a parent where you envy those people who let their kids do whatever they want, simply because it's easier? Why go through all the trouble of making them clean their rooms, or do their school work, or be nice? Just put in a movie, and leave them alone.
Raising kids is hard. Really hard. Actually, raising kids isn't that hard, I guess. Training them them is. There is a difference. Bringing up kids "in the nuture and admonition of the Lord" is hard work. Because it can't be all "nurture" and no "admonition", which would be easier on the parent. And it can't be all "admonition" with no "nuture" either, because that leads to bitterness in the heart of the child. Finding the balance is part of the challenge.
Yesterday was definitely an "admonition" day. Both the boys had a terrible day at school, and Stitch is not feeling well, which makes him extra "attitudinal." Plus, we have been dealing with an attitude problem in our eldest for the last couple of weeks. Think a thirteen year-old trapped in a seven year-old's body... So, "Mean" Mommy had to make an appearance last night. But afterwards, I sat down with both the boys and we talked about how much they had been given by God, and that they have a responsibility to follow His commands just like Mom and Dad do. Then we all prayed together, and the rest of the evening went better. I'm hoping today will be a "nuture" kind of day. It's Friday, a majority of the work is done for the week, and I think it's going to be pizza and fun time tonight.
So, why do we do all this? Well, obviously, if we are Christians, our first responsibility is to raise up Godly families. Also, we don't want to have a house full of juvenile delinquents running around. You know--the family everyone thinks of as THAT family with THOSE kids! But mostly, we do it for them. I mean, how else are they going to learn to be God-fearing, responsible, adult citizens who are not solely focused on themselves? (Which, if you look around, is becoming quite an epidemic in our nation--but that's a whole other post!) If we don't take the time to train in unselfishness, thoughtfulness, or obedience, then guess who will? No one. And there are plenty of people out there who will be glad to teach them all kinds of other things.
I guess I wrote this post as a reminder to myself---even after the bad days, don't give up! Remember why we do what we do! :)