Tuesday, February 24, 2015

Me And Ms. Lee

    So, a couple of weeks ago, this happened.  And "Mockingbird" fans everywhere rejoiced.  I am super-excited about this and can't wait to read it.  I have been a huge fan of Harper Lee ever since I first read "Mockingbird," and have read all that I could get my hands on about both the book and its author.  (I even read some stuff on Truman Capote, since he was one of the people Ms. Lee called a friend.  At least they were friends until the friendship became so detrimental that she had to sever ties.  In fact, she was his research assistant on "In Cold Blood", and many people believe she should have gotten co-author credit.)  I have read the book about fifty times, and watched the film adaptation several times as well.

    This novel was eye-opening for me as a young reader.  It was after I read "Mockingbird" that I really began to realize that things like what Harper Lee wrote about actually happened.  And that there were good men and women that stood for what was right, no matter the popular opinions of the time.  The character of Atticus Finch taught me a lot about standing.

    But I feel a connection to this book for another reason.  And that is the story I want to tell.  The story of the time I meet the author of this great novel.

    Back in 2003, I was teaching at the school.  My younger sister was in high school at the time, and the principal gave her an opportunity to participate in an essay contest held by the University of Alabama (Harper Lee's alma mater) celebrating the 40th anniversary of "Mockingbird."  So, she wrote an essay, and was invited to come to the campus and receive a certificate of recognition for her essay.  And a chance to meet Harper Lee.  She was allowed to bring one guest, and so she invited me. (Thanks, Little Sis!)  I was pretty excited to meet any author, and the fact that she was the author of one of my favorite books was just icing on the cake.

   On the day of the ceremony, we left bright and early.  We had never been to the campus before, so I wanted to be sure that I could find my way there, find the right building, parking, etc.  So we left like 2 hours early to make sure we had a window of time just in case we ran into a problem.  (Paranoid much?)

   Well, we got turned around once, but we made it to the campus with time to spare.  So, we drove over to the building that the ceremony was being held in.  It was a big old plantation-style house, with a circular drive.  The only problem was I didn't see anywhere to park!  We drove around the driveway a couple of times, and then just sort of pulled off to the side at the end of the driveway.  I figured that if there was a problem, then someone would let us know, right?.

   Anyway, while we were waiting there, (still about twenty minutes early) we noticed a car pulling up, and driving around the circular drive.  It stopped, and an older lady got out.  We figured that someone was finally here to start the process of telling people where to park and stuff.  So, we got out of the car and started meandering toward the front door of the house.  (Trying to look like we knew exactly what we were doing!)  As, we got closer, we made eye contact with the lady who had driven the car.  Being polite Southern ladies, we said "Hey" and "Good morning."  Then she asked what we were doing there, and we told her about the essay contest, and asked her if she knew where we should park.  She said no, and asked if there was anyone from the university here yet.  We said we hadn't seen anyone yet, but that we were a little early.  She looked at us and smiled a little smile and said, "Well, I'm Harper Lee."

   I think I can be forgiven for not recognizing her right away, since she has always been a private person.  She rarely gives interviews, makes appearances, or anything else that may put her in the public spotlight.  After I processed what she had said (and closed my mouth), I think I managed to get out a "Well, hi!" or something witty like that.  I asked her if the university had sent anyone to meet her, or tell her anything, and she said no. (Really, UA, you have a ceremony to honor one of your most well-known graduates, and you can't even make sure there's a greeter?!)  We talked about the parking issue, and she said finally said, "Well, I'm going to park right here, and you can park behind me, and then there won't be a problem, will there."  I had to agree with her--I mean, would you tell Harper Lee to move her car?!  Not likely!  So, we got the cars settled (the whole time I was thinking "Please don't let me rear-end Harper Lee's car!") and she told us to come on into the house.  So, of course, we followed her right inside.

   When you walked in the front door, it felt like you were entering Tara.  Grand sweeping staircase, ornate furniture, oil paintings of people in old clothes, shining hardwood floors with Oriental rugs covering them--everything you could imagine in an old plantation house. But it was absolutely empty!  No one was there yet.  You could tell they were expecting company, but nobody was home.  So, what do we do?  Well, Ms. Lee gives us the grand tour, of course!

    I am not joking...Harper Lee gave us a tour of this grand old house while we all waited for everyone else to show up!  She started by telling us that the house was where the university president had lived at one time.  (I believe they live off-campus now.)  She told us who was in the pictures, showed us the art work in all the rooms, and gave us the provenance of several of the pieces of furniture in the house!  (I guess she knew all this because she was a former student. Or because she was Harper Lee.)   I still cannot quite forget the surreal feeling of the whole situation...we are being shown around this old plantation house by one of the most well-known authors in all of America like we are prospective buyers or something!  And she was so nice!  Just the picture of a Southern lady in her gray pantsuit and purple blouse and sensible shoes.  I mean, she looked like an English teacher or librarian or something.  And the whole time in my brain I was going "This is Harper Lee.  Scout Finch!  She won the Nobel prize for Literature.  She was friends with Truman Capote.  She is saying words, and I want to remember everything she is saying because she is Harper Lee, but I can't because she is Harper Lee!"  I know I made some kind of remarks about the things she was showing us, and I think I even asked a couple of questions, but I couldn't tell you what they are because I was just blown away by the whole experience.

Well, finally, after about fifteen minutes, a couple of more people showed up.  Ms. Lee kind of retreated into herself...it was almost a visible process.  Then somebody (finally) showed up from the university, and the actual event started to get rolling, but I was pretty much done for the day.  I mean, we had already gotten to spend one-on-one time with Ms. Lee--how much better could the day have been?!  I really could have left right then and been totally satisfied with how it turned out.  But, of course, we stayed, had a few snacks, my sister received her certificate, and then things kind of started to wrap up.  The ceremony people invited us to come across the way to another building where Ms. Lee would sign books for a few minutes.  (Something else she rarely does.)  I had like four copies of "Mockingbird" with me for her to sign because all my family are huge fans as well.  So we trooped over there, and got in line.

    When we made it through the line and I set down my stack of books, Ms. Lee looked up at me over the top of her glasses and asked, "You're not planning on selling these, are you?"  I managed to stammer out a "no, ma'am." and she signed all the books for me.  (Sell them?!  My family members would be lucky if they got them back!!)  I was even able to take a picture of her autographing my copy.



    So, that is the story of how I met one of my favorite authors.  Who totally blew me away with how much she was "like folks" to use a Southern expression.   I can't wait to read her newest book, and when I do, I will remember the person behind the story and that will make me enjoy it all the more.  :)

Monday, February 9, 2015

Birthdays and Other Fun Stuff!

     We have been busy around here!  I was talking to a friend the other day, and we were discussing how we spend most of our time saying "If I can make it through this week, then things should slow down..." but somehow it never seems to happen that way!  Each week seems to bring its own pile of stuff.

     Since I posted last, we have had sickness, a cold snap during which I had seven college guys staying over night at the house, (only ONE set of pipes froze), several school-related happenings, a Lego event (BrickFair!!), and two birthdays!  And that is on top of the regular stuff of the day-to-day life with four kids.  So, once again, the poor little blog has been neglected.

     Stitch turned 6 during all that craziness.  He has had several milestones of great importance this year--at least to him, anyway!  He "officially" went to K5 (even though he's been in school for two years); he finally got to be a ring bearer in a wedding; and he lost his first two teeth!  (Thankfully, the teeth were lost after the wedding!)  It's hard to believe my littlest guy has gone from this:

 to this:


 to this:



 to this:


 in just six short years!  He is our mischievous, talkative entertainer.  He adores his little sister, and tags after his big brothers.  Our family just wouldn't be as fun without you, Stitch!

     Since he is such a great big brother, I am sure he won't mind sharing this post with his beloved Little Sister!  She turned 2 (!!) last week.  I can't believe this.  In fact, I think I am just going to be in denial for a little while longer.  She has been the "cherry" on our family's sundae.  Easy-going, sweet, and fun...she is such a trooper.  She comes to school with mommy and daddy every day, and is loved by all her other "brothers" and "sisters" there.  She has learned a lot in her two short years...and her favorite job is to set the table.  She walks around putting every thing in just the right spot, saying everyone's name in the process. ("Ye-BI", "E-e", Mommy, Dada, "Ja-yen")   We love you, Little Miss Sunshine!























     Well, that about catches everything up around here.  It doesn't seem like life has any plans to slow down soon, but I am working on the next post already, so maybe it will be up here soon!  Thanks for checking in on this little piece of crazy fun that is our life!  I hope you are enjoying the craziness that is yours! :) 


Monday, January 5, 2015

Resolved!

     We have had a great holiday season around here.  I hope your Christmas time was filled with fun things, family times, and reminders of God's blessings in your life.  Our family really enjoyed our break from the "grind" of school, and we spent several hours just doing nothing for a change!  I even stayed up late playing video games--*gasp!

    I was pretty glad to get back to the routine today, though.  Schedule is soothing to my OCD soul.  Although, I already miss the sleeping in!

    As most people look at the new year, they think about the things they want to change, or the weight they want to be, or the goals they want to accomplish in the new year.  I always feel that my "new year" begins in August, when school starts back.  That is usually when I take stock of our lives and see what is working and what isn't, make changes, and things like that.  So, the New Year for me is more of a time to check in on the plans from August and see how they are working.  (So far, so good!)

    Secondly, I think that in order for resolutions to make any impact in your life, they should really be made on a daily basis, rather than a batch of "I want to..." at the beginning of a year, most of which are forgotten by the end of the month!  I thought I would share a few things that I try to resolve to do each day.  Like a lot of things, some days it works, and some days it doesn't!  Which ones would make your "daily resolution" list?

       1. Pray more purposefully.   We pray over our meals, and there are the quick, desperate "mommy" prayers ("Please keep me from completely LOSING it!"), but praying purposefully can be something that is difficult to do on a daily basis--especially for us busy moms!  Praying purposefully means to me that I have sought a quiet time, alone, to go to God and talk with Him in a coherent, thoughtful way.  I have tried to clear my mind of the busy clamor of life to spend some time worshiping and communicating with my Heavenly Father.

       2. Think about God's Word.   Again, this is not a snatched verse here or there, but a time apart to read an spend time meditating on God's Word and what He would have for me to apply in my life.

       3.  Tell my husband I love him.  Yes, this is something I have to decide to do.  When you and your spouse are busy working hard all day, and then you come home to kids who need you to take care of them, it can be easy to push through until bedtime and then crash and burn at the end of the night.  Then, before you know it, it's been three days since you have said anything meaningful to your spouse besides "Did you remember to pay that bill?" or "Have you done anything for supper?" or "It's your turn to deal with that!"  Take the extra minute to connect with your love.

      4.  Hug my kids and tell them each I love them.   Usually this is something that happens daily at bedtime, but once in a while even the bedtimes are rushed and it is just time for EVERYONE TO GO TO SLEEP RIGHT NOW!!  Your little guys and girls (and your big ones, if you have them)  still need to feel those special moments, even in the midst of your busy life.

     5.  Remember this song.  We have an old Johnny Cash album recorded at San Quentin prison, where Johnny Cash is singing with the Carter Family and the Statler Brothers.  One of the songs on this album has the best words for mommies (and other people) to have in the back of their mind on a daily basis.  Here are the lyrics, and you could probably hear a recording on Youtube, if you looked it up.  So simple, yet powerful if you take a few minutes to think about them.  It's like a mommy theme song!

"Less Of Me"
lyrics by Glen Campbell

Let me be a little kinder
Let me be a little blinder
To the faults of those about me
Let me praise a little more

Let me be when I am weary
Just a little bit more cheery
Think a little more of others
And a little less of me

Let me be a little braver
When temptation bids me waver
Let me strive a little harder
To be all that I should be

Let me be a little meeker
With the brother that is weaker
Let me think more of my neighbor
And a little less of me

Let me be when I am weary
Just a little bit more cheery
Let me serve a little better
Those that I am strivin' for

Let me be a little meeker
With the brother that is weaker
Think a little more of others
And a little less of me

    Anyway, those are just  few of the things I try to resolve to do on a daily basis.  What's on your daily "resolve" list?  If you don't have one, maybe that can be your New Year's resolution! :)