So, my S-I-L who also blogs has started a "Joyful Mom Monday" blogging series where people can link up their blog to hers and we can all read what the other wrote about mothering. (At least that's what I think it means...I haven't delved too deeply into the blogging experience, other than to figure out who to work my own...barely.) Anyway, I wanted to see if I could actually figure this out, and also wanted to encourage her in her new venture, so I am going to attempt to take part in this--periodically. My blogging has suffered lately--I think it's because I'm a little busy right now--haha!
Since I decided to try to take part in this, I have been thinking about being joyful as a mom, and as a "regular" person. For those of you who may not know me, the sort-of theme of my blog is taking the time to look for those little moments of joy and fun in your life--the "Lego" moments. Like opening your make-up drawer to find a Lego pirate man looking up at you. :)
I think a big part of being joyful as a mom--and as a "regular" person too--is looking for those moments. Some people may think that mothers are just full of fun and joy because, after all they are moms. I mean, you're surrounded by happy, funny little people all day, who love you and need you more than anything else. Your life must be overflowing with joy and happiness, right?
Well, yes, in some sense. In the sense that children are a blessing from the Lord, and therefore a source of joy. In the sense that they are gifts to be nurtured, and that God has entrusted you (me!!) to train and care for them. But these are the more--hmmm, how can I put it--ethereal aspects of the joy of motherhood. The kind that are there, but it's-sometimes-hard-to-see-it way. The joy you think is going to be a part of your everyday life when you become a mother--and then you bring your baby home from the hospital.
And you quickly realize that mommy-ing isn't what you see on the Johnson&Johnson commercials. You know--the beautiful, swaddled infant contentedly snuggling with his miraculously slender post-baby mother. It's more about 3am, walking miles in your living room with a writhing starfish that used to be your long-awaited baby. That's when you have to start looking for the moments of joy.
But I think this is true of any person's life. If we do not look for the joys that are in front of us, then it is very easy to miss them. In the hustle and bustle of "the daily grind" we have to be actively searching for the moments of joy. Sometimes it's easier than other times. There are days in mothering when you are surrounded by happy little people and it's easy to have joy. Just like in life, when things are going great and it's easy to think of those joyful moments. Then there are other days. Loss of a job, unexpected illness, or one of the many other difficult things life may hold for us. Those are the times when it's difficult to see what we can be joyful about.
As Christians, our example in all things is Jesus. He is what we aspire to be like. And He had to look for the joy in the difficult circumstances in His life as well. In Hebrews 12:2, it says "Looking unto Jesus the author and finisher of our faith; who for the joy that was set before him endured the cross, despising the shame, and is set down at the right hand of the throne of God." (Emphasis mine.) To me, this verse is telling me that Jesus had to remind himself of the joy that was to come during the hardest time in His life.
So, be encouraged mommies! It's okay to have to look hard for the joy some days. Just so long as you are looking. Because that's what's important...to look! And you'll find them more often than you think...like Legos scattered in your house! :)
Be sure to check out the other "Joyful Mom" blogs for today as well! Because, let's face it, Mondays can always use a little more joy! :)